Men understanding Men

Through social conditioning, our society delivers many confusing messages about what it means to be a man. Through no fault of their own, men have lost touch with the real meaning and essence of masculinity.

Many men play out the myth of false masculinity. Their identity often becomes tangled up with their profession and material success and they become obsessed with work, social status or being ‘the provider’.

A man who does not fully understand his masculinity is often fearful of showing the gentle side of himself. He can feel alienated from his partner because he is uncomfortable with intimacy – which is an essential ingredient for both his well-being and for a healthy, life enriching relationship.

A man who does not fully understand his masculinity is generally very good at pretending everything is okay. He avoids facing his problems until a crisis occurs. In crisis, he is usually reluctant to seek support and feels that he should be able to deal with it himself. When unresolved, his desperation, despair and sense of isolation can cause a great deal of suffering and even tragedy. The statistics on divorce, violence, crimes and suicide are alarming – and a clear sign that we need to approach life’s challenges in a different way.

When a man learns how to disentangle himself from the distorted perception of masculinity and fully understands how to embrace his true identity, he gains a deeper understanding of himself and how he interacts with the world.

A man’s masculinity is one of the most important ingredients in his makeup. A man needs a clear sense of his true identity and his purpose and direction in life. Without it, he eventually becomes lost, disoriented, disillusioned and cynical in a rapidly changing world. With it, he holds his passport to freedom. Real Man participants discover and embrace the freedom that is their birthright.