The Talking Stick – Volume Six
Before I did Real 1 I wasn’t in a bad place, I just didn’t know who I really was and I thought “this is as good as it’s going to get” and I was ok with that because I had no idea that I had the power to change myself and my life. As far as I was concerned I had it all going for me, I had a full-time job, a car, good friends and I partied a lot!
I was in a relationship with a guy because I loved the idea of being in love, I wasn’t actually in love with him, we didn’t even get along that well but I was willing to accept that because I was so consumed by the idea of love that I’d lower my standards and take what I could get.
My old boss, Peter, first introduced me to the concept of self-growth. He suggested I do the Real Woman 1 workshop, I remember thinking “why not?”, so I did it and then invested myself and my money into doing Real Woman 2, Real Relationships and Real Life Design. Being 20 years old I didn’t have a lot of money but I made it happen because I realised how important an investment I am.
I remember arriving at Real Woman 1, I felt so alone, scared and so far out of my comfort zone it was sickening. I event remember texting my mum the first day freaking out! By Sunday night I didn’t want to leave! I felt feelings I had never felt before (sounds tacky but it’s so damn true). I was different, more free, open-minded, inspired. I felt blessed to be me and to have shared such a rare, unique experience with these women I had only met 3 days earlier!
One thing that stands out to me is that when people used to ask me “who are you?” or say “tell me about yourself” I was stumped, I usually told them where I worked, what school I went to and who my siblings are because I thought they might somehow know me better by knowing all of that external stuff. Now I know part of who I am and the truth is that I don’t think I’ll ever fully know who I am because I’m always growing and changing (a lot of the time I am confused as) But I’m never going to reach a point where I stop my growth, I love change!
One of the biggest things I got out of Real Woman 1 was my ability to recognise my self-worth and just how important self-love is. I can’t even begin to explain what else I got out of it, it’s just something everyone has to experience for themselves.
Real has helped me change my life. I just want everyone to do it so they can feel what I felt and so they can really start to find who they are! Life is just the best and it can only get better!
Real Sister, Nikki